The Number One Thing That Women Are Looking For In A Husband

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Bride And Groom - Public DomainIs it looks?  Is it a charming personality?  Is it compatibility?  No, it isn’t any of those things.  According to a Pew Research Center study that was just released on Wednesday, “a steady job” is the number one thing that women are looking for in a husband.  And considering the fact that the labor force participation rate for men has been falling for decades, it should be no surprise that the marriage rate has been declining as well.  In fact, as I wrote about the other day, the marriage rate in the U.S. is at a 93 year low and single Americans make up more than half the population for the first time ever.  This is a very disturbing trend, but it is not likely to change any time soon.  In fact, our economic problems are probably only going to get worse from here.  So as the pool of “eligible bachelors” continues to shrink, what are women going to do?


The chart that I have posted below shows how the labor force participation rate for men has been declining ever since the 1950s.  What this means is that the percentage of men that are employed or that are looking for employment has been steadily falling for a very, very long time…

Labor Force Participation Rate For Men

This trend has been particularly pronounced among young men.  Not only are fewer young men of marriage age working, wages for that group are way below where they used to be once you account for inflation…

As the share of never-married adults has climbed, the economic circumstances faced by both men and women have changed considerably. Labor force participation among men—particularly young men—has fallen significantly over the past several decades. In 1960, 93% of men ages 25 to 34 were in the labor force; by 2012 that share had fallen to 82%. And among young men who are employed, wages have fallen over the past few decades. For men ages 25 to 34, median hourly wages have declined 20% since 1980 (after adjusting for inflation). Over the same period, the wage gap between men and women has narrowed. In 2012, among workers ages 25 to 34, women’s hourly earnings were 93% those of men. In 1980, the ratio was less than 70%.

The new Pew Research survey findings suggest that never-married women place a high premium on finding a spouse with a steady job. However, the changes in the labor market have contributed to a shrinking pool of available employed young men.

Among never-married adults ages 25 to 34, the number of employed men per 100 women dropped from 139 in 1960 to 91 in 2012, despite the fact that men in this age group outnumber young women in absolute numbers. In other words, if all never-married young women in 2012 wanted to find a young employed man who had also never been married, 9% of them would fail, simply because there are not enough men in the target group. Five decades ago, never-married young women had a much larger pool of potential spouses from which to choose.

This is making things very tough for both young men and young women that want to get married.

Young men cannot find the jobs that they need to attract a mate, and young women are facing a shortage of men that they consider to be “marriage material”.

In fact, one survey found that a staggering 75 percent of all American women would have a problem even dating an unemployed man…

Of the 925 single women surveyed, 75 percent said they’d have a problem with dating someone without a job. Only 4 percent of respondents asked whether they would go out with an unemployed man answered “of course.”

“Not having a job will definitely make it harder for men to date someone they don’t already know,” Irene LaCota, a spokesperson for It’s Just Lunch, said in a press release. “This is the rare area, compared to other topics we’ve done surveys on, where women’s old-fashioned beliefs about sex roles seem to apply.”

Of course this is not the only factor that is contributing to the decline of marriage in the United States.

The truth is that our young people are being trained to not value marriage and family as much as young people in America once did decades ago.

These days, many people are content to stay unmarried and enjoy “the singles lifestyle” indefinitely.

But is it good for the stability of our society to have far fewer marriages and families?

When you look at the hard numbers, they truly are alarming.  The following excerpt comes from my previous article entitled “The Economics Of Marriage“…

According to a startling new study conducted at Bowling Green University, the marriage rate in America has fallen precipitously over the past 100 years.

In 1920, there were 92.3 marriages for every 1,000 unmarried women.  In 2012, there were only 31.1 marriages for every 1,000 unmarried women.

That is not just a new all-time low, that is a colossal demographic earthquake.

That same study found that the marriage rate has fallen by an astounding 60 percent since 1970 alone.

As a result, U.S. households look far different today than they once did.

Back in 1950, 78 percent of all households in the U.S. contained a married couple.  Today, that number has declined to 48 percent.

A lot of these unmarried young adults are not even living on their own.

In fact, as I wrote about just recently, an astounding 31.1 percent of all U.S. young adults in the 18 to 34-year-old age bracket are currently living with their parents.

In the old days, if you were not married and starting a family by the age of 25 people started to get concerned about you.

But now a lot of people think that marriage before the age of 25 is “getting married too young”.

So what do you think about all of this?

Please feel free to share your opinion by posting a comment below…

  • town bike rider

    Very few millennial men care what women want or desire. Why should they ? Let’s face it, today’s women looking to get married are worn out sloots incapable of bonding long term with any man. They spent their best years getting pumped and dumped, then in their 30’s try to latch onto a man to foot the bill. After a few years, a few kids, our perverted laws and courts will reward these women with his house, assets, kids, child support and alimony. No sane American man entertains marriage with Western women.
    All that the blaming and shaming of men these last few years has accomplished is to strengthen our resolve. We know ‘you’ are panicking because of the shear volume and tone of the articles.
    Don’t get me wrong, I might consider taking the town bike* for a ride, but I’m not going to buy it.

    * The average American girl.

    • seth datta

      They have been banging thugs and useless men as they and previous generations have been indoctrinated by the so called chosen people. So the family unit is perishing because all have been sent false delusion by the people from the land that should be renamed Isitreal?

    • Chris-Chan

      Women won´t feel bonded to me because they are sloots and not because I am an overweight basement-dweller who clops to MLP.

      I don´t mind that men are judged after their wealth and that they should work so women can´t, why? Yes, because I shouldn’t be judged after my appearance, fetishes and lack of basic hygiene.

    • jkl

      There is not one word of truth or reality to your post. Why poison this site with your paranoid, made-up MRA garbage? Hoping to convert an idiot to your ridiculous fantasies?

  • town bike riders

    Thank feminism and it’s tradcon enablers for the disintegration of marriage.

    • James Rogers

      Yes they are the same. Both seek to enslave men.

  • Guest

    Your honesty is admirable. Most men wouldn’t admit what you’ve shared. Not that there’s anything wrong with your situation. Let me encourage you with a passage of Scripture.

    “And he said unto them, Which of you shall have a friend, and shall go unto him at midnight, and say unto him, Friend, lend me three loaves; For a friend of mine in his journey is come to me, and I have nothing to set before him? And he from within shall answer and say, Trouble me not: the door is now shut, and my children are with me in bed; I cannot rise and give thee. I say unto you, Though he will not rise and give him, because he is his friend, yet because of his importunity he will rise and give him as many as he needeth. And I say unto you, Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you.” (Luke 11:5-9)

    • HumbleAmerican

      12 And the man said: ‘The woman whom Thou gavest to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I did eat.’

      13 And HaShem G-d said unto the woman: ‘What is this thou hast done?’ And the woman said: ‘The serpent beguiled me, and I did eat.’

      Enough said

      • Jodie Lynn Gaeta

        So men and women are equally susceptible to the moral failing of blaming someone or something else for one’s own poor choices. I agree.

        • HumbleAmerican

          Or, it can be debated that the woman didn’t want to accept responsibility of her own actions alone, and persuaded the man to eat. It really comes down to interpretation. I do find it interesting that the serpent (Gadreel), chose to beguile the woman instead of the man. I do agree, there is a serious blame game going on in this world, it’s everyone else’s fault as to why the world is the way it is.

          • HumbleAmerican

            And just to be clear on the punishment handed down, for Jewish and Christian faiths.

            16 Unto the woman He said: ‘I will greatly multiply thy pain and thy travail; in pain thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and HE SHALL RULE over thee.’

            Definition of rule?

            1. exercise ultimate power or authority over (an area and its people).
            Not my words, G-ds words.

          • Israeli woman

            Always a bad idea to quote God in translation. The original Hebrew word can mean “to rule” but also can mean “to determine/influence the character of”. And the word for translated as desire connotes “moving toward, going toward”.

            So really, this verse is saying that in marriage a woman will move toward and be influenced by her man.

            I think that feminism has killed off most healthy feelings that a woman has innately either about her man, her relationship or her body.

          • HumbleAmerican

            So your saying we really don’t have a concrete meaning to any of the words in the Torah? That we currently can interpret the WORD as we see fit? That G-d allows several interpretations of his WORD to exist? Or is it that mankind just chooses to define words as we move along? Usually when your influenced by someone or something, you tend to be ruled by that, would you agree?

          • jkl

            So you would say that feminism is the modern day tree of knowledge then? It certainly opened women’s eyes to some awful realities!

          • jkl

            Of course, that G-d guy also said the earth was flat… so… not exactly the beacon of omniscience we like to think.

          • The Cat

            What’s also interesting is that the blame game didn’t work for either Adam or Eve. A lesson to us all.

          • Cynical Guy42

            Excellent point. They were all punished in the end.

          • HumbleAmerican

            Actually, WE are all punished in the end. Unless you don’t have to work, and you are immortal? Assuming your a man. And last time I checked, labor for women was pretty painful, although mankind has introduced drugs into the world.

        • jkl

          Funny, Lilith wanted no part of that whole scene so she got the hell out! Eve was framed!

      • jkl

        What’s funny is that you left out how G-d NEVER ONCE told Eve not to eat from the tree — He only told Adam not to.

        THAT is enough said. Adam is the only one who disobeyed. Eve never heard any dietary directives.

        • Carrie

          I cannot believe I made it to middle age before realizing this too! All my life I was willingly mislead into thinking Eve disobeyed G-d’s command, but Eve had never been told about the fruit of that tree, only Adam had.

    • 3%

      “And I say unto you, Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you.”

      Welcome to the Democrat Party!

  • CynicalGuy42

    It is understandable that women would want a man with a steady job, given that men have traditionally been providers. However, they need to understand that character and personality compatibility are important in a marriage. I support interracial marriage, but don’t marry outside your religion. You don’t want conflict over what religion to raise your children, do you?

    I think the economy’s not the only thing that’s negatively impacting marriage. What about the mentality many people have regarding marriage, the divorce rate, etc.?

  • Jodie Lynn Gaeta

    Why do so many misogynists and anti-semites visit this site?

    • town bike rider

      Oh noes not the dreaded charge of…….misogyny… I, the small weenus luser who dwells in mommy’s basement and can’t get laid will scurry…. to mommy’s basement….. just as soon as she gets me a fruit roll up. Lmao.
      Here, let me ‘mansplain’ it slowly just for you cupcake,
      You can’t dispute one line of what I wrote, so you attempt to shame me. Wow just wow.
      Psssst, honey it won’t work, I won’t man up and make you an ‘honest’ woman.

      • Jodie Lynn Gaeta

        Plainly you are very angry with women; a fact that is obvious from your writings. Just wondering: do you also blame the Jews for society’s ills? I ask this because I read Mr. Snyder’s Economic Collapse and also the Daily Sheeple, and have found that antisemitic comments from the public appear with disturbing frequency. I consider such paranoia and bigotry harmful to the libertarian cause. I am absolutely sure, sir, that your anger is entirely legitimate. But is it properly directed? If you feel that men are routinely mistreated in divorce courts, then you should petition your state representatives and urge them to change the laws.

        • mgtow joy

          Enough with the angry/bitter shaming language that you misandrists toss out. That charge is feminism 101, so dated and worn. It is ineffective to genuine men. Tell the coven to update their shaming points because the 40 year old ones quit working 20 years ago. Politicians pander to women, therefore that avenue to address legitimate grievance does not exist for men. It’s better for men to keep turning their backs on the misandric nation, culture, media, laws, courts and most of all – the indoctrinated women.
          You women broke it, you bought it. I have absolutely no obligation to protect, defend, uphold, or in any way aid progress your defiled religion or the nation that worships it. Quite the opposite, in fact.
          No man does and no man should.

          • Jodie Lynn Gaeta

            So what will you do, quit society and live in a tent in the woods? You have misidentified the enemy. Women are not the problem; in fact most of our policy makers are men. Better you should target those laws that have made null our civil liberties-this would also include drug forfeiture and anti-discrimination laws – and direct your rage into overturning those policies that have cost innocent citizens their property , their freedom, and even their lives. ( I presume that you are an American?) One of my friends was married to a women of considerable mental instability and not exactly stellar morality. She freaked out one day, called the police, and insisted that her husband had threatened her (I know my friend very well and in fact he was very gentle, forgiving and supportive of his wife). Anyway, after the police arrived, this woman spoke to a judge -on the phone !- who said “It’s weak, but I’ll grant a temporary restraining order”. So my friend was deprived of his home and allowed to return only when his wife lifted the restraining order. The police also confiscated his gun collection, damaging one of his valuable weapons in the process. He had to pay $2000 to a lawyer to get his guns back. Now I think that my friend was de

          • Jodie Lynn Gaeta

            Darn my computer won’t let me edit my comment-anyway he was deprived of his property without due process. And one might counter that the laws may be unfair but they are designed to protect women, but that’s silly. Since when did a restraining order stop a murderer? If someone wants to kill you, they’re kicking down your door and coming in.

          • mgtow joy

            “And one might counter that the laws may be unfair but they are designed to protect women,”
            You admit that your religion of man hate and perpetual victim hood was never about ‘equality’.
            Chivalry – when it suits us. ‘Equality’ – When it suits us.
            When the on coming and necessary shift occurs, women will curse their religion, their mothers and the priestess’s that beguiled them.
            Forty years of misandry, Sixty million slaughtered babies, a one sided gender war with the aid of the gov’t and media, as well as the ‘s**ual liberation’ of feral females have made men resentful,cold, callous and indifferent towards females.
            Riddle me this; As obama, ( whom the majority of women voted for), and the demoroids, ( same), flood the country with 3rd world barbarians, who are you counting on to keep you safe?
            With blacks having gone feral, because of the destructive policies of the demoroids, ( Whom women overwhelmingly vote for), who are you counting on to keep you safe?
            With Islamic sleeper cells in America, crossing the border with impunity, who are you counting on to keep you safe?
            With the threat of wars and the need to send troops,who are you counting on to keep you safe?
            The menz? Lol, (see above).
            The days of male disposability are gone, ( example – the Concordia sinking). Chivalry is dead, women and their religion killed it.
            Women have demonstrated how little they value men, their contributions, sacrifices and lives. Gee, you didn’t think we listened ? You didn’t think we watched ? You didn’t think we noticed ? Women cannot put the genie back in the bottle.
            If/when shtf, you will for once get genuine equality. You will have to own the responsibilities that men have always shielded you from, out of love and compassion. Elvis has left the building, that boat has sailed. It’s all over except the crying, for you misandrists. Never again will women be trusted, or admired by men. For that you only have yourselves, your mothers and your religion to blame.

          • Jodie Lynn Gaeta

            No use in arguing with you. I see that you thrive on hatred, and are immune to both logic and facts.

          • mgtoe joy

            “I see that you thrive on hatred” Standard shaming tactic, ineffective as it is false.
            Even IF I were a misogynist, it would not change the truths of what I have said.

            ” are immune to both logic and fact”

            Neither of which have you brought to the discussion. In fact, none of the women posters have refuted a single point that the men posters have made. Which demonstrates this fact, The female does not and cannot argue with logic, or reason as both are outside of her ability of understanding. The female depends on emotional arguments, misdirection and shaming to shut down dissension.

            “No use in arguing with you.”

            There was no argument. I gave you facts, which you cannot logically refute.
            I offered wisdom and insight, which you do not like, ( the truth hurts syndrome). So in an effort to ‘shut it down’, you had 2 options – ignore the truth and hope everyone else does as well. Or, Attempt to misdirect the ‘debate’ and shame me, ( emotional response). Which you did and all the other women posters did to all the other men posters, (to no avail because, we understand the female better than ‘she’ does).
            The most ridiculously amusing post I have read thus far comes from the misandrist above with her feminist wet dream/ role reversal fantasy. My God woman, it’s not like you uniquely developed that post from personal experience, lol. That has been across the inner net tubes for a decade at least.
            The least you could and should have done, is credit the original author in your obvious copy/paste.

          • jaxon64

            unfortunately..when it all comes unglued in this country and the world, when there is widespread civil unrest, women will be barterable inventory.
            A pretty faced woman may be worth some power tools or a case of liquor…an ugly woman may be labor or just a useless consumer of supplies..
            Either way, contrary to the Hollywood women cops/detectives/CSI’s etc who are kicking men’s butts and slamming them facedown before cuffing them…in the upcoming society that women helped foment by destroying 1,000’s of years of traditional gender will not be a kind place for those bossy, bitchy, controlling women of the corporate management world.
            PS: Is there anyone more stupid on planet earth than those young, female anarchists? They’ll do real well in a world without laws and order where survival of the fittest and the strongest and most barbaric set the rules.

        • jsmith

          Well, when one group controls banking, insurance, real estate, Hollyweird, the movie industry, the main stream media, the goverment and who knows what else, I begin to worry. And this is a fact!

          • Jodie Lynn Gaeta

            No shortage of Jewish names in those fields, but so what? What exactly are you worried about? Our President isn’t Jewish; neither is the Vice President, the Secretary of State , John Boehner, Nancy Pelosi, or my U.S. Senator or Congressman: there is plenty of goyish influence (if that pleases you).

          • jsmith

            Oh, you mean the puppets Jodie?

      • CynicalGuy42

        All right, it seems like there’s anger with women due to women who take advantage of men, and feminism. But not all women take advantage of men, and many do not self-identify as feminists.

        I find it interesting feminists think marriage is a trap for women, whereas a few here argue it’s a trap for men. I think it really depends on who you’re married to.

        • The Cat

          Exactly. I think there’s just a lot of anger today in general.

    • CynicalGuy42

      Some of the people who believe the American Dream is ending are conspiracy theorists. Not all of us, though. I think a combination of bad government policy and our own nation’s immorality is bringing us down. That being said, many of these conspiracy theorists like to blame things on the Jews. Not all of them, but some think the NWO is run by Jews, Kennedy was killed by Jews, Russia and America are run by Jews, you get the idea.

      As for misogynists, I don’t really know. Many men feel like divorce courts unfairly favor women. I’m a male who’s never been to divorce court, but I’ve heard things.

  • westernwoman

    Before I was married, the job of my fiance did not move any much one way or the other. A few years later, I have been on both sides of the fence of having to provide when the need arose, and staying home with our children when he had a good job again. I think it is very important to be able to provide. The simple truth is, if you don’t have enough money for a really good child care situation, an unemployed husband will mean farming your kids out to whoever is willing to take them. (An unemployed husband is not a permanent childcare provider in most cases– he is probably spending his days looking for a job.) Those are sad memories for me. Our children deserved better, but God was still faithful. I think it is good for unmarried people to wait until their financial situation is in order before tying the knot

    • 3%

      For much of 200 000 years of human history, basic economic unit of the human specie was the tribe I.E. more than 2 persons.

      • Cynical Guy42

        Interesting point there. Maybe extended family and/or family friends should help with childcare. Do you think breakdown of the family started with the breakdown of the extended family?

  • James Rogers

    Most men can’t afford to marry. The breadwinner jobs have long since vanished. Feminists have stolen men’s ability to get a good job. Men have been destroyed for the past fifty years and female hypergamy has been unleashed on society. Women caused this and I hope they suffer for it. The broken families, kids raised by single mom’s only to be emasculated, men imprisoned for child support. Where have all the Good men gone. Well we know they mean men with good jobs now. Less men able or willing to marry. Ladies are in deep trouble. . The beta male couldn’t provide now even if he wanted to and trust he is opting out in greater numbers. . No man wants to marry a fat bitter single mom with three thug spawn in tow. . Why pay for what another man was given for free?

    • 3%

      Wrong, there is nothing ethical about men having to work 14 hours a day and give 80% of their income to remain married.

      You blame female hypergamy, why not simply female greed for what they did not work for?
      Ironically, feminism and entitlement culture in general would never have been able to cultivated it so well without the men should work so women don’t have to mentality.
      Maybe it makes some individuals feels like men but that will just be a feeling, when you volunteer to fight on Assad´s side liek some Greek nationalists have done, then you will be a man.

      “kids raised by single mom’s only to be emasculated,”

      I don´t like blacks very much, personal experience but darn, while not exactly shinny examples of courage, it sure isn´t them who are emasculated ****ies.

      The lamest generation was overwhelmingly raised in nuclear families, so are plenty of the weakest generation´s hipsters and male feminists.

  • mleblanc138

    I am 25 with a steady albeit low paying job. I’m faced with the problem of girls not wanting to progress past a first date even though I did everything correctly “on paper.” My best guess is that I’m not “Disney perfect” enough, in which case good riddance to a bunch of airheads. And I pretty much exclusively date girls I meet at Church or something having to do with Church.

    • mgtow joy

      Watch out for those ‘born again virgins’. They are just as misandric as their marxist sisters.
      I’d suggest that you google dalrock and do a little reading before proceeding further with those ‘good church girls’.

      • Cynical Guy42

        Why not? Good church girls would not be feminist, abortionist, etc.

        • mgtow joy

          Actually, yeah they are. The only issue they may/may not appose is abortion.
          The tradcon feminists might even be considered worse than the feminist left. The femileft is open about their man hating and seeking special rights/privileges. The tradcon fems act as though they are antifeminist*, while keeping silent about the misandry and blatant abuse of men. They do so in the hopes of snagging a suc…. errrr, man to finance their ‘stay at home’ lives. They want the meal ticket and will play along until they get the hubby, home, kids, status, etc. Then it’s off to divorce court to steal everything he has earned and bed the bad boy again.
          * Antifeminist does not = pro man. It = keeping all the benefits of feminism and not wearing the label, because men are rightly repelled by it.
          We also know this, churchian* girls are no more pure, wholesome,virginal, moral, or honorable than their ‘worldly’ sisters, ( statistics demonstrate that).
          * Churchian – Genuine Christianity has not been welcome in America’s churches for a few decades. This is why the ‘church’ has a man problem, (google is your friend). Men won’t go because it is nothing more than a cult of estrogen and misandry.
          Although their tactics are different, as is their bait, tradcon, (churchian) feminists walk lockstep with the feminist left. Both see men as disposable utilities who’s lives are for service to females.
          I and men like me reject the premise and live for ourselves.
          When you try to shame us with, man up, grow up, peter pan boy and marry that sloot, we laugh at you.
          And you see, dear reader, this is but one reason why when your little princess cupcake spends her prime years sampling many, many men, she will not find a ‘good’ man to settle down with.

          Give it a couple of more years and the desperation will be so great that it will no longer be possible to ignore MGTOW.

  • margaretbartley

    As long as women have to be able to support the family, if the men want to be involved, they have to be able to support their women. If they can’t do it monitarily, they should be able to do it emotionally and functionally.

    I’ve known several women who were the breadwinner in their family, and their men did not have jobs. It’s actually pretty common. The one thing I noticed is not one of these women would even think about coming home from work, putting their feet up and reading the paper while Dad served dinner. After dinner, maybe Mom would get the kids ready for bed, read them a bed-time story while Dad cleaned up the dishes and started or sorted the laundry.

    Until men start learning how to be supportive of their working wives, women will continue to say “No, thanks!” to men who expect them to hold down a full-time job, and then come home to another job.

    • mgtow joy

      That’s a brave front you are trying to put up. I suppose if your self delusion gets you through the night.
      The fact is it is not women who are walking away, it is men. If it were as you suggest then we wouldn’t have the deluge of man blame and shame articles that proceed from feminists and tradcons, (That right there is a marriage made in h***). Your whole role reversal thing, lol, yeah that’s another feminist fantasy tale that simply doesn’t pass the smell test. I know you have evidence, yeah, ok, sure, lol.
      Here’s the reality. Women have always worked outside of the home. The only reason we see women in high profile positions is because the field has been so tilted to grossly over favor them, (tokens). This has caused tremendous degradation to America. Because it is an artificial construct that exists only as long as we have treasure to keep it aloft. In the meantime, it has killed innovation, creativity and productivity. Which means that, we are not able to replenish the treasure which allows your ‘social justice’ religion of man hate (pretending to be about equality) to continue. When the dark day comes,( When the treasury is bare), sadly it won’t be just your religion of man hate and perpetual victim hood that implodes, but the entire nation, ( Obviously you are not aware of the fact that our entire economy and nation depend upon men’s overproduction and taxes to keep you cupcakes fat and happy. BTW, production implies tangible goods, which women are unable/ unwilling of producing).
      Because modern women are loose and easy in their prime years, it causes them to be incapable of ever becoming decent wives and mothers, (I’m not going to pull out the science for you, do your own research).
      Millennial men understand the truths that I have stated, whether they verbalize them or not. We are, in large numbers, opting out of commitment to your daughters,( Consciously and unconsciously), who are incapable of commitment, ( I haven’t even touched on the obvious disincentives- laws, courts, the blatant misandry, etc). Some of us opt out of marriage completely, others seek foreign brides, that are capable of honoring a lifetime commitment. I’ve considered both options and for now I’m comfortable to simply enjoy the decline. Good luck with your feminist fantasy, grrrrl power, men bad/women good, man hating doctrine of demons. Perhaps that will comfort you in your old (single) age, lol.
      P.S. The only place that ’empowered, kick *ss’ chick exists is in the fantasy of feminist/gay hollywood.

  • thx scubby

    >the boomer generation

    Worst ever :)

    Yes, I’m a twentysomething unemployed (but in school) male. At some point I realized that it was improper for me to seek to date girls without having the money to provide for a potential family. Too bad none of the educational, mentoring, or parental establishements I grew up with ever explained that to me. I’m working to fix things ASAP, though of course damage is already done. Of course the other problem this article didn’t address, which is probably addressed in other articles, is that once I finally make myself into employed marriageable material, I probably won’t be able to find a [virgin] girl with a modicum of “Christian” morals. Perhaps this could be a follow up article topic? This is such a problem I have already experienced in dating that someone recently advised to look to some other countries even to find a potential mate, and their advice is gaining ground in different online communities! I’m no pessimist but we do indeed have problems – ones which call us to step up to the plate and become champions! Unleash your inner champion! Prayer, fasting, almsgiving; work, exercise, eat well, etc.

  • apeiron

    We’ve gotten to this point, in large part, by conceding to women everything they asked for in the feminist movement. The feminization of society & the workplace is a major factor in our decline & ultimate undoing.

    • 3%

      If women have the opportunity to get jobs, they shouldn´t see men as walking ATMs.

      • Realidad

        EXACTLY! Since women have been working, very often earning nearly as much as (or more than) their husbands, the courts do not order alimony for the wives, so hello! Good idea to not stop women from earning! So if you can’t stop being a jerk who drives women away, you’ll at least not have to pay the aforementioned woman any alimony. Win/win!

  • HumbleAmerican

    I’ve been unemployed for 5 months now. I had several interviews and the jobs that I might still have a shot at, are jobs that require long hours with low pay. The process to even be offered the job is long, I’m still in the process for 2 potential positions, it’s been over a month for both. Luckily, I’ve been married for 15 years, but it’s taking it’s toll on my wife. What’s funny is, I’ve had 3 jobs in the last 20 years, so not a job hopper. The job I’m most interested in, the first interview was conducted by a woman manager (not HR), the second was conducted again by a woman, regional manager (not HR). Not long ago, men would hold these positions to support their family. Now, women dump their children off at day cares and complain about working, taking care of the kids after work, fixing dinner, cleaning the house on their days off, running errands, etc. Well women, you wanted to be equal, so there you have it. You had it made when you could spend time with your children and take care of the house while your husband brought home the paycheck. My wife actually agrees with me since I don’t have a job. I make dinner, clean the house, take care of the kids, I love it. Not sure what you women were complaining about.

    • Handog

      Find a job before she dumps you.

      • HumbleAmerican

        I’m actually waiting for all men to leave the workforce and had it over to the women. I can clean a house, take care of the kids, make dinner, and not have the stress of a boss. I make light work of it, kids off to school, house cleaned, dinner prepped in the first 3 hours of the day. I tell you what, all men should do this…lol. And I have time to comment on sites like this, while searching for work on the internet, thanks to the internet, all the jobs are apply online or email your resume.

        • P.J.101

          that’d be great. and then we start a tandrum and call ir opression and demand more … of everything while women cripple themselves to death ^^ awesome ^^ i like this genderreversal

      • TheLulzWarrior

        She ain´t worth it, then.

    • 3%

      “but it’s taking it’s toll on my wife.”

      Does she have a job?

  • jsmith

    What me marry? I have been single for 65 years and I thank one uncle who told me “the intelligent man doesn’t marry!” Marrying a woman is like playing with a roulette wheel.

    • apeiron

      These days marrying is like Russian Roulette…with 3 rounds in the cylinder.

  • Handog

    A good gold digger can still do quite well. The key is to marry multiple times. Taking half of a poor mans wealth adds up. After two or three I do’s target an older gentlemen with a paid off home and no children. They’re out there, you just have to keep digging. Remember, Looks and personality are not important at this point. Good luck.

    • PullMyFinger

      This is why men should only marry women with JOBS. No court today gives alimony anymore if the wife works, and hell since feminism started up, not that many women even want to get married! It’s just easier to earn your own moolah without a creep laying his hands on you after the priest tells him he can.

  • K

    I’ve got an idea. Tell women if they need to take care of themselves to get a husband and quit your job so as to free up jobs for men. Women in the workplace is an abomination. It should be illegal to hire women over men.

  • iliketurtlez

    It’s great that female gender roles are ending and women have moved into the workforce. But it’s sad that men are still held to their gender roles, particularly breadwinner ability. With limited jobs now, it’s harder than ever for a man to be a breadwinner. You can’t fix only half the gender roles and expect equality. Women, who now outnumber men in college degrees, need to start getting used to the idea of marrying down or even having stay-at-home husbands.

    Lots of articles say that men are intimidated by women who out earn them. I think the problem is the other direction, considering women file the vast majority of divorces, and the number one reason is financial. Men fear becoming inadequate, and women have proved that men who fail to live up to the breadwinner gender role are justified in the fear of becoming disposable.

    • jaxon64

      you should phrase your thoughts more precisely…you think it’s great that women are takingon the masculine roles of strength…..
      This is what you are really saying…but then women don’t find it appealing when men have become effeminate and subordinate to women in their homes.
      Women, you want to be the cutthroat corporate strongman…the Manager who dictates to all of those little men under you…and then you get home and are disgusted by the man you live with, married or are dating because you view him as you do the men you try and dominate throughout your day….
      Again, you could be brainy, funny and gorgeous–but if you had these masculine traits–I for one ( and most true men) don’t want you.
      Men want women…we want to feel needed…we have innate reflexive attitudes to protect, care for and treasure women..NOT to be cowtowed or submissives.

      • TheLulzWarrior

        Strenght? Haha! Not in today´s post-industrial economies.

        In fact, men who work full time so their wives doesn´t have to visibly grows physically (and mentally) weak from the lack of proper exercise and diet, they doesn´t have the time to be decent fathers if they do have children either.
        They are the ones who are kowtowed, submissive and hardly appealing.

        Better strong, reasonable women than those weak and emotion-driven ones keen on spending money that isn´t theirs.

        Yuck! I have never had any desire to be needed, especially as I see dependency as a sin and a loaded gun on people´s head.
        The greatest caring and protection in my view is to teach fortitude, ruthlessness, independence and self-reliance.

        My wish to contribute to a decent society doesn´t revolve around feeding my ego, only doing what I should be doing.

  • johnnyblotus

    Let’s stop kidding ourselves. Feminism is 100% to blame for this. Why would any man in their right mind get married, when feminists have turned marriage into a weapon against men that drains all their resources and turns them into slaves? Feminists have also turned divorce into a weapon against men. Once a man is divorced, especially if he has kids, he becomes a pariah. Divorced fathers are treated worse than criminals. They have their children forcefully taken away, and then these men are turned into slaves to support kids they are rarely allowed to see (must of the money is wasted by the mother). All thanks to feminism. Men are sick of it. That’s the real story here, not some bogus excuse that men are unemployed. You keep on making excuses for your sinking ship. We’ll be laughing at you.

    • jaxon64

      I have to agree-begrudgingly.
      I have been married for over 20 years and my wife and I are great friends, partners and confidantes. I can honestly say that I still get excited when I hear my wife’s car pull into the driveway.
      I can also say with almost absolute certainty that I most likely would not marry one of these younger generation women if I were to be young again. Unless I could meet a women with traditional values, who honered my judgement with financial decisions, respected my position as spiritual head of the household -among other things–there would be no chance.
      I know that feminists reading this are probably going into convulsions–but you angry hags can relish your spinsterhood–or your sniveling, metrosexual, subordinate men that you shack up with or “co habitate” with. My wife–a real women whom I treat like a queen, loves the fact that I am “all male” as she says.
      We have 2 daughters–the older, progressive one is very smart and gorgeous. She dates an artsy guy who won’t commit–either to a career or to the permanance of the relationship. She is not the full blown femi-nazi, but she is quite liberal ( graduated from an IVY league school for her masters so I guess the odds were stacked against her). She desires marriage and children but now is reaping the fruits of her beliefs and priorities.
      The younger daughter married a simple, blue collar guy, works part time at a retail store and has an amazing daughter ( my granddaughter.) Her life is full and happy if not somewhat of a struggle financially……
      Ironic that feminism touts the life of my older daughter who makes 6 figures, is statuesque and fashionable with a high degree from a prestigous university…and feminism demeans the life my younger daughter lives as “subservient” or “trapped”..yet it is my younger daughter who is filled with joy and fulfillment and the older daughter who feels as if life is slipping by without the meaningful things.

      • Jodie Lynn Gaeta

        So in the barbaric futuristic world you envision in an earlier post, what do you think your daughters’ function will be? A pretty little plaything to be sold for a keg of beer, or a homely slave or “useless consumer of supplies”? Of all the savage and moronic utterances that have been posted on this site, I find yours to be the most disturbing; on account of the utter lack of natural affection on your part that a father should owe to his daughter. You admit that your older daughter is “very smart and gorgeous” and commands a six-figure salary, and yet you mention it without a hint of paternal pride. Instead, you condemn her for the choices she has made, and just because she is still single. You describe yourself as a traditional man, but I think that a good old-fashioned father would be of an attitude to defend his daughter and remain loyal to her (even while allowing her faults and mistakes), and say rather: “My daughter is beautiful and very successful, but she has not yet found a man that is worthy of her”. Instead, you regard her current single condition ( which you seem to believe is both unbearably unhappy and permanent) to be the fruit of her own evil philosophy, which has made her very well-off financially but she hasn’t given you a grandchild and that’s all that matters. Your apparent coldness and hardness of heart toward your own child is remarkable. Perhaps it is the reason for her uttter rejection of your values?

        • mgtow joy

          Wow, look at the hamster run. Poor little princess might have to accept responsibility for her choices, oh my, no not ever! ( As long as there is a man to blame and shame). Here’s a dose of reality, cupcake.
          No man wants for his wife a girl that spent her prime years – 20’s- bedding as many men as she could. He will not commit to, ( as the above poster put it), the town bike when she is in her 30’s and wants to get off the carousel.
          No man wants his first born kissed by lips that have been wrapped around 700 other men’s appendages.
          Between the divorce r*pe and the loose women, if I eventually choose to marry, it would be with a foreign bride.

          • Proud man

            Go for Chinese all the way. They are today what we used to call proper women yesterday.

          • Mike

            But, there’s the giant problem of trying to getitup in the presence of something that looks like a ten y.o. boy, no matter how much makeup you slather on its face. I have yet to see an attractive enough or remotely feminine Asian. You are secretly gay if you can getitup around one.

          • Realidad

            But YOUR lips have been wrapped around twice as many male appendages… so why the hypocrisy?
            Do you think the wife you’re being forced to purchase will not divorce you? Hint: she will! She’s only saying yes long enough to become a citizen! I love how often that happens, ha ha.

      • 3%

        You expect us to buy that a woman who is both good-looking and 6 figures salary is still single despite not wanting to?

        Oh yes, I know that men are as a general rule much less likely to marry for the sake of money but really? NOT.

        • Understanding man

          She’s “demanding”.

          • 3%

            Yes and I am Caligula.

    • FactChecker

      I was laughing at how hysterical you were until your last sentence — the giveaway! Oops, you’re an MRA. Those fools believe such b.s., dripping straight from the cornholes of other MRAs a la human centipede.

      The last people on earth who know what feminism is are MRAs. They have fabricated their own little hysteria brigade and they’ve developed this puny, but loud cult who are the modern day KKK. And just as we would never intelligently listen to the KKK about race, no one should believe a single syllable about MRAs when it comes to gender or sexism.

      A shame, to be sure, since men DO have so many legitimate problems in society… just feminism (and women in general) are not the reasons for any of men’s problems! Men Got Thrown Out by Women = MGTOW!

  • johnnyblotus

    Your religion has nothing to do with it. Lack of belief in a sky daddy didn’t cause marriages to fail. Atheists have higher marriage success rates than christians.

  • Piglet

    Many years ago we used to refer to this as “Looking for Mister Goodwallet.” Unfortunately there are far fewer Mr. Goodwallets these days because good jobs are scarce, and those who thought they were getting ahead by obtaining college degrees only incurred more debt without finding suitable employment, so they’re still living with mom and dad, unable to afford life on their own. Articles elsewhere note the upcoming generation has a much lower automobile ownership rate and this is praised as wonderful because they’re taking advantage of public transit, they more conscious of the environment, etc. What a load of BS. The reality is they can’t afford a car and can’t afford their own place, and what young woman wants to catch a bus (assuming one’s available) to go on a date with a guy living with his parents and working at a low-paying job, if he has a job at all?

    Also, I don’t have a problem with the low marriage rate. A 50% divorce rate is a strong indication that a great many people pick terrible mates, and the consequences can be catastrophic. I have known many who have been through three and four failed marriages, and just one can clean you out. The wife of one friend, a really good guy, convinced the judge he was an SOB so she got a huge chunk of his paycheck, his bank account, his investments, etc. Whatever he had, she sliced off a massive piece so she could enjoy life with her new stud muffin. This was the guy’s first and only marriage, and I don’t think he’ll ever be able to even think about another.

    I saw nasty divorces take place repeatedly and it kept me single until I was 41, and even then I dragged my feet getting married. It has worked out okay for me, but the best advice for any young man today is the same given to me 30 years ago: “Remember, there’s nothing wrong with being single and happy.”

  • The Cat

    I don’t understand why you keep complaining about women in the workforce- it is you’re wife’s job that is paying the bills while you are unemployed. If you feel that strongly about it and feel that is what is right as set out by God, then get your wife to quit her job. Act on faith and put pleasing God before wordly goods.

  • Observer

    the prospect of being subservient to a man during your whole lifetime does not bode well for feminism, so they gain recourse to government laws to hinder the process of marriage and discourage other women from marrying.

    • TheLulzWarrior

      No, they just want subservience for a hefty price.

    • Mike

      The govt is involved in the conspiracy to keep women from wanting marriage??? WTF? So what do we do, make the govt repeal the laws that let women work for their own pay?

  • P.J.101

    Oooooh, what a surprise that the parasite gender is primarily looking for a constant and sustainable money supply source to parasite on !!!! WHAT A SURPRISE !!!!!!

  • DJohn1

    I agree that women in America do not appear to be a good bargain for any man. Especially with the courts favoring women when it does not work out as expected.
    I am currently happily married to a woman who appears to be my soul mate in most things. We have now been married 18 years.
    I have also been married in the past to a woman that made my life a living nightmare. She finally walked out on me and three boys. She never collected allimony. But the Child Support was horrendous and left me poverty stricken for about 12 years. My youngest son was 6 when we separated. When he turned 18, my life and wages went back to a small resemblance of normal.
    She even had the county pay for trying to raise my child support. It didn’t work. I was mainly paying health insurance as well on all 3 kids. She was making $60,000 a year at the time as a surgical nurse and working all kinds of hours to afford a little farm that when we were married I told her we could not afford. My gross was approximately $35,000 at the time. All overtime disappeared after we automated.
    She is currently married to a man who was very successful in his business life. I am clear of her. She lives in a about a 220,000 dollar home in a rich neighborhood. It is probably worth about 160,000 with the real estate market the way it is.
    I came into some money when my folks died. Suddenly she was trying to be friends again. It didn’t work. I am currently happily married to someone much nicer than she ever was.
    My youngest divorced and remarried someone nicer after 3 kids. She married too young and was an adultress. That means nothing to the courts.
    My middle son separated and is reunited with his wife.
    My oldest looked at the situation and decided to stay married. They changed the rules so that they are both happier.
    The courts are not religious. And that is part of the problem. They are basically humanist in their values. They are still figuring out the modern world. The divorce courts act like it was still 1820. The alimony and child support system here basically uses numbers from Connetticut which has a much higher price on things. So most males here get literally screwed financially if they divorce.
    The lawyer/judge/bar association loves it. They get to rake everyone over the coals.
    When a man gets unemployed, goes on the welfare system, the best they can come up with is to take away his driver’s license until he pays. That does not work.
    The women on paper get everything. Yet they often end up poverty stricken as well. The kids suffer. They are on latch-key economics and are not supervised properly unless the grandparents do it.
    Civil law is by state. That means they often disappear to another state where the laws are different. So the women lose as well.
    Often times, men get cremed in divorce court, walk across the hall to bankruptcy court.
    So it is not wonder that men are reluctant to commit to marriage with a court system like we are dealing with.
    Why work? I did. But a lot of men struck down by the courts with poverty do not.
    Our entire justice system in the civil courts is completely made up of chaos. Any resemblance to justice is long gone.
    I am now 72 years of age. My wife is 71. If either one of us require extended medical care, everything we have ever earned will be taken from us in a system that kills any incentive to work.
    It is basically a system that takes from those that have and gives to those that do not have. It is a system that is an abomination to every value taught to us growing up.
    There is basically no reward in this system for someone to work hard their entire life, gain savings, and make a decent retirement for themselves.
    It is a system made by lawyers, for lawyers, and screw everyone else out of anything that they can. Our civil law system is a monopoly and it is strictly for making money for lawyers. The even cash in when someone dies and leaves a small amount of money with one of the highest percentages taken of any system in the world. Even Britain is lower than the United States oon inheritance law.
    Until that system caves in, until they make a decent system where people can live and work for things that they want, getting married should be the very last thing on anyone’s mind.
    This same bunch of crooks are currently busy selling everyone down the river in the U.S. Congress. That is why all the good jobs are gone. That is why both parties participated in this selling of the American working class down the river and putting all the jobs in countries that have no standard of living at all.
    They are bought and paid for by the corporations of this country.
    Only it has backfired big time. Within the next 5 or 6 months that will become apparent to everyone.

    • Cynical Guy42

      Well said. Our society should change to encourage people to work and take care of themselves like it used to.

    • TheLulzWarrior

      Humanism IS a religion, just a like Islam, it just happens to be an evil one.

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  • Gaetano Gagliano

    So, I see the divide and conquer technique has worked on you all so far.

    We really need to stop hating on each other and accept the fact that our current society and all its beliefs have failed.
    Schools make you dumb and in debt
    A job makes you poor, and in debt
    Owning a house gives you stress, and debt
    Owning a car gives you headaches, and debt.

    Perhaps we all need to rally TOGETHER, not slit each others throats…Who cares what gender you are?
    We can agree that things are bad.

    So let’s find a common ground, and discuss how we move forward.

    I for one would suggest the following;
    No more fiat currency controlled by banks who have no interest in the country
    Interest free loans for anyone.
    Take profit out of war

    And the most important one;
    Implement a law where ALL members of congress including the President have 9 months from taking office to turn a profit, instead of always spending spending spending, you will see a surplus in less than 2 months! If they do not turn a profit, time to reelect.
    …And maybe we should stop electing lawyers to run a countries finances (Just a tip)

    Let’s move forward and not let their games trick our egos into battling one another about who’s to blame, because we should only blame ourselves for allowing those who profit off our misery to flourish.

    We do the work
    We make the money
    We slave
    We put up with deaths and family tragedies through war.
    We have to eat poorly and unhealthy foods
    We have to sit in traffic to make a low wage
    …This can go on and on, but I believe I made my point.

    If you’re all done blaming each other, it’s time to act like humans and reconnect…Our true strength (in numbers) far outweighs their strength (monetary)

  • Marriage is a scam anyways. And besides, 99% of modern american women are hypercapitalistic degenerate garbage anyways. Marriage is a business contract.

  • K.S.

    This post is very saddening, as I am not even 18. This makes me extremely concerned for my (and other people’s) future(s), as I am male. I have always desired to invent the first mass-energy power system, among other things. Thanks to that EGREGIOUS 3rd wave feminism movement, I WILL PROBABLY NOT BE ABLE TO ACHIEVE ANYTHING I want. It only fuels my depression. The OMNIPRESENCE of this female entitlement garbage is PURE GREED. This odious feminism needs to STOP! The very foundation of this type of bigotry is built upon lies and deception. Sadly for women, males have a higher intelligence quotient. Of course not all men (and women) are intelligent. Also, men are more power driven than women. Of course you can alter the chemical makeup of the human body with persuasion (*SARCASM*). The fact that I am not impoverished (quite the opposite) is irrelevant.
    The best and only thing to do in my helpless situation is to pray to God. Also, God bless the people who are struggling and the prosperous people as you never know.

  • Sky-Dive

    Finally someone is telling the truth about what women really want from a man. Some time’s the truth is a hard pill to swallow but we must all get to the point where we can read between the lines. For me this hits me hard because I have been out of work for 1 year now, and prior to that almost 3 years. I have not being very lucky in finding any job security. Its got so bad that I am thinking about trying to work from home some how. The big problem about being in the pocket we all call unemployment is that, the only way to get a job is by people you know. If the job has been advertised then, the chances are that you will not get it because of all the competition for jobs.

    All you can do is volunteer work and hope that a door will open some where, and that’s what I’ve been doing for years now