Only 37 Percent Of Evangelical Christians Believe That Going To A Strip Club Without Your Spouse Is Cheating

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If a husband goes to a strip club without his wife and spends hours watching other women dance around naked, would that be considered cheating? Of course the answer is yes, but I was astounded when I came across a recent survey that found that only 37 percent of evangelical Christians agree with me. Perhaps even more shocking is the fact that the same survey found that only 31 percent of evangelical Christians believe that “watching pornography without your partner” is cheating. Numbers like these make me wonder exactly what is being taught in our churches these days.


In America today, most ministers are extremely hesitant to preach hard messages about “right” and “wrong” because there is fear that some people might get offended.

But when morality is not taught, all sorts of crazy things start happening.

For example, there is a “devout Christian couple” down in Florida that claims that they are “spreading the gospel” by having sex with other couples. Dean and Christy Parave are convinced that their unusual “lifestyle” enables them to share Christ with those that “might otherwise never hear about Jesus”. When I first came across this story I couldn’t believe that they are serious about this, but according to Christian Today they actually are…

A devout Christian couple from Florida are championing an unusual evangelism technique – swinging.

Christy and Dean Parave met online eight years ago, and began swinging after being approached in a DIY store.

They now regularly swap partners with other couples.

In fact, Dean Parave insists that swinging is an ideal “evangelism technique” because “you can’t get closer to someone than having sex with them”

“God has put me here to spread his word and our lifestyle community is a great place to do it,” Dean told Barcroft Media.

“You can’t get closer to someone than having sex with them.”

He believes that he’s been given a unique opportunity to share his faith with those who might otherwise never hear about Jesus.

“I’m getting to people that will probably never even visit a church,” he said.

When our churches have no discernible moral standards, just about anything goes. This is why just about every form of sin that you can possibly imagine is exploding in the evangelical church today. Since they are not being clearly taught about right and wrong, so many believers are simply doing whatever is right in their own eyes and making up their own doctrines on the fly.

If you can believe it, a new Barna survey has even found that 30 percent of all “practicing Christians” believe that “all people pray to the same god or spirit”

In a web-based survey conducted in March of 1,456 practicing Christians, researchers asked the sample if they agreed with several statements that are rooted in so-called “new spirituality.” Sixty-one percent of them affirmed at least one of the questions.

Nearly 30 percent agreed that “all people pray to the same god or spirit, no matter what name they use for that spiritual being.” About that same percentage of people said they believe that “meaning and purpose come from becoming one with all that is.”

Progressivism is slowly but surely seeping into even the most hardcore evangelical Christian institutions. Once it gets a foothold in a church or a ministry, it starts eating away at the foundations like a cancer. In her most recent blog post, Alisa Childers shared five signs that your church “might be heading toward progressive Christianity”

5 Signs Your Church Might be Heading Toward Progressive Christianity

1. There is a lowered view of the Bible

2. Feelings are emphasized over facts

3. Essential Christian doctrines are open for re-interpretation

4. Historic terms are re-defined

5. The heart of the gospel message shifts from sin and redemption to social justice

If you are an evangelical Christian pastor and you are teaching your congregation a “progressive” version of the Christian faith, you need to resign immediately.

What we need are men and women that are willing to be like the great preachers of old and preach about sin, repentance and judgment. I really liked how Shane Idleman made this point in his most recent article

Where are the Tyndales and Husses who were burned at the stake for simply declaring the truth? Where are the Luthers who, when asked to recant or face possible execution, said, “Here I stand; I can do no other”? Where are the John Calvins who shaped the religious thoughts of our Western culture? Where are the John Knoxes who cried, “Give me Scotland [for the cause of Christ] or I die”? Where are the Whitefields who shook continents? Where are the Howell Harrises, Daniel Rowlandses, and Griffith Joneses who preached with such passion during the Welsh revivals of the 18th century that we still honor them today?

I say again, “Where are they?” Where are the John Wesleys who said, “Give me one hundred preachers who fear nothing but sin and desire nothing but God, and we will shake the gates of hell?” Where are the David Brainerds who spent so much time in prayer that even the great Jonathan Edwards was convicted? Where are the Robert Murray McCheynes who, even though he died at age 29, was one of Scotland’s most anointed preachers—causing people to weep before even preaching a word (not emotionalism, but anointing)?

I join Idleman in saying “Where are they?”

If there are any still out there, please contact me, because my wife and I would love to hear that kind of preaching.

Of course those that follow my work regularly know that I have never backed away from preaching about sin, repentance and judgment. Of course preaching the truth has gotten me in trouble with liberal evangelicals, but that is okay.

Those that are preaching that the Bible really isn’t true, and that God never actually judges anyone, and that it is perfectly okay for Christians to embrace sexually deviant lifestyles and still “preach the gospel” are modern day Pied Pipers leading multitudes of deceived believers on a highway that leads to only one place.

Wake up America, because your time is running out.

  • Tim

    “Dean and Christy Parave are convinced that their unusual ‘lifestyle’ enables them to share Christ with those that ‘might otherwise never hear about Jesus’.”

    That’s such an abomination that I find it hard to believe. The following verses of scripture come to mind.

    “What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin, that grace may abound?
    God forbid. How shall we, that are dead to sin, live any longer therein?
    Know ye not, that so many of us as were baptized into Jesus Christ were baptized into his death?
    Therefore we are buried with him by baptism into death: that like as Christ was raised up from the dead by the glory of the Father, even so we also should walk in newness of life.” Romans 6:1-4

    • iris


  • Jarvis

    What if someone wants to go to the club for the food or to meet new friends or explore a new place?

    Learning new things reduces codnitive decline.

    • Sean H

      Jesus clearly taught for a man to look lustfully at a woman who is not his wife is adultery as if they had physically done it. He also taught to go to the world and preach REPENTANCE and the gospel of Christ. We are to be ambassador’s for Christ as Christians. First of all by spending your money there you are encouraging the behavior and secondly what message that send to the unsaved if they see a self proclaimed Christian in that environment. I think only a blind man could eat in that environment without falling into lust.

      • Jarvis

        Yes. Also it depends what a man is used to seeing. If they’re in a primitive tribe and accustomed to seeing skin all day it becomes the new normal.

        • Sean H

          I am sorry a “Christian” said that to you. Jesus said many will say they did things in His name and He will say I never knew you.

          • Chukwudi Nwevo

            that is true, and such people can gradually lead one in backsliding.

        • Paul Patriot

          Yeah, sorry a “christian” said that to you.

          But, still the words of Jesus and Biblical principles, condemn the viewing of a naked woman who is not your wife

          Primitive tribes do not know the God of the Bible,and thus they are in sin. I knew missionaries to primitive tribes in South America, and they said lust is alive and well there too, as human nature is the same worldwide….so, according to Jesus, the primitive tribes do not have an excuse, neither does anyone who goes to watch a naked woman show off their goods, regardless if it “doesn’t click with your brain”

          The Bible has much to say about sexual purity, regarding one who is not ones spouse.

          There is no excuse. The Bible establishes principles of purity for a reason, as we don’t always see the big picture and the spiritual, mental, and psychological damage that is caused by doing something that doesn’t seem harmful in our eyes, but, God created us and knows how we work and the things that cause us damage and harm.

          • Jarvis

            regardless if it “doesn’t click with your brain”
            you guys can’t even begin to imagine what being a eunuch is like
            but no i don’t go there
            anyway have a good day

    • The food is known to be AWFUL, the entry fee is known to be ghastly high, and the only friends to be made there are other perverts who frankly do not want to have any extra male friends, as male friends tend to cut a dude’s already low chances with the str!ppers.

      Learning new things can be done literally everywhere else.

  • BeenThere

    The result of years of (starting as far back as the 1860s) of antinomianism in the US evangelical churches.

  • ATrober

    No, ZERO evangelicalsbelieve this.

    Those that do believe it are not evangelicals.

    • Pamela Hankins

      They are not SAVED at all…they’ve exchange the truth of the Gospel for ‘Christian behavior’ and then abandoned the pretense altogether.

    • Tim

      You’re absolutely right!

  • Pamela Hankins

    Romans 1:18-32, “…the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who hold the truth in unrighteousness; because that which may be known of God is manifest in them; for God hath shewed it unto them. For the invisible things of him from the creation of the world are clearly seen, being understood by the things that are made, even his eternal power and Godhead; so that they are without excuse: because that, when they knew God, they glorified him not as God, neither were thankful; but became vain in their imaginations, and their foolish heart was darkened. Professing themselves to be wise, they became fools, and changed the glory of the uncorruptible God into an image made like to corruptible man, and to birds, and fourfooted beasts, and creeping things. Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves: who changed the truth of God into a lie, and worshipped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed for ever. Amen. For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: and likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet. And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient; being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity; whisperers, backbiters, haters of God, despiteful, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents, without understanding, covenantbreakers, without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful: who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them”. Heb 10:26-31, ” For if we sin wilfully after that we have received the knowledge of the truth, there remaineth no more sacrifice for sins, but a certain fearful looking for of judgment and fiery indignation, which shall devour the adversaries. He that despised Moses’ law died without mercy under two or three witnesses: of how much sorer punishment, suppose ye, shall he be thought worthy, who hath trodden under foot the Son of God, and hath counted the blood of the covenant, wherewith he was sanctified, an unholy thing, and hath done despite unto the Spirit of grace? For we know him that hath said, Vengeance belongeth unto me, I will recompense, saith the Lord. And again, The Lord shall judge his people. It is a fearful thing to fall into the hands of the living God”.

  • chris

    Why does the article only focus on men going to strip clubs? It has been all the rage for many years for women to go to clubs and oggle naked muscular men. Shouldn’t the same standard apply to them? Seems rather a sexist slant for this writer to take.

    • apeiron

      Because the churches would loose BIG MONEY if they even hinted at confronting feminine rebellion.

  • Ray S.

    It sounds to me like this couple from Florida what they haven’t come to understand is one of God’s character traits, which is holiness. That’s one of the things also missing in many churches today. If they truly experienced God’s holiness they would fall flat on their faces with shame and regret and then repent over what they’ve done. Our righteous acts are like filthy rags to the Lord (Isaiah 64:6). We serve a God that is holy. So holy that we cannot even come into his presence without the blood of his Son covering our sins.

    • Tim

      Well said.

    • Look into “Flirty Fishing”. It is a long-standing evangelical bunch whose sole claim to fame is using sxx to lure men over to G-d and the Bible. The name was based on Matthew 4:19 where Jesus says “Follow me, and I will make you fishers of men.”

      From Wikipedia: Flirty Fishing (FFing) is a form of evangelistic religious pr0st!tution practiced by female members of the Children of God, currently known as Family International (TFI), from around 1974 to 1987. According to some sources, hundreds of thousands of men were “fished” … Flirty Fishing was defined as using sxx appeal for proselytizing.

      They still have websites today, meaning they are STILL offering their women and their CHILDREN to men. One such website is Jesus-is-savior. com.

  • R.C. Gerber

    Evangelicals shouldn’t be going to strip clubs to begin with.

    • Richard TheLionHeart


  • carson

    there are plenty of people who have ‘another Christ’, a false Christ one not based on God and His word but on their own making, from the inter-faithers with their ‘another christ’ (from your-If you can believe it, a new Barna survey has even found that 30 percent of all “practicing Christians” believe that “all people pray to the same god or spirit”…=which is part of inter-faithism, so 30% of ‘christians’ are inter-faithers, and have ‘another christ’ a false christ) average joe’s and janes’ practicing the flesh who’ve made up a version of christ to fit themselves and their lives.

    If the survey was reworded to, ‘is going to a strip club and lusting after other women cheating’..then wonder how they’d answer.

    what’s a strip club anyway, what’s the purpose of the dancers, to get one riled up..and so they’ll also fork over some money, but the ‘riled up’ is a polite way of saying to stir up desires and lusts, and consider if no desire was stirred up..would the dancer make much money? No, so strip club goers must face the reality that lust etc is part of the game there.

    Matthew 5:28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman to lust after her has already committed adultery with her in his heart, and if one is not married then it’s fornication in the heart, both are sins, and it goes for women lusting after men too.

    wasn’t their some cult in russia back in the 1800’s? that practiced orgies and spouse swapping as part of their ‘christian’ religion? and old testament mentions ‘temple prostitutes’..seems nothing new under the sun people doing whatevers and seeking/making up some way of justifying it all the way up to making their own versions of ‘christ’, so they can stand side by side with folks who worship baal and say we’re both worshiping ‘god’..

  • “Only 37 Percent Of Evangelical Christians Believe That Going To A Strip Club Without Your Spouse Is Cheating”

    No duh. That means that 63% are A-OK with it. That’s really close to the percentage of so-called “evangelicals” who voted for Disgustin’ Donald: 81%.

    Let’s not pretend that evangelicals have any rightful claim to moral superiority these days. It seems that they are the very embodiment of the “Deplorables” known to doxx, threaten, harass, and bully those with whom they don’t agree, and not feel a single compunction about being so NOT G-dlike.

  • Mart1963

    Too much singing and dancing and not enough of God’s word being taught is a recipe for Hell.

    Choose Life, read God’s Word.

  • SafetyViking

    It’s not a question of morality. It’s a question of fiscal duuhh. Why would anyone pay to get teased?

  • Guest

    Must be a struggle to morally tread water, with concrete boots of lust of the eyes & flesh strapped on. Psalm 101:3

  • apeiron

    Repent & believe was dumbed down to just believe…four spiritual laws, just repeat after me & you’re in, numbers became more important than transformed lives long long ago. It would be interesting to find out what percentage of church goers could correctly even define the word repent.