17 Things About Men That Most Women Don’t Know

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17 Things About MenDo you feel like you truly understand men?  Much has been written about how men don’t understand women, but the truth is that there is a whole lot about men that women don’t understand as well.  The point is not to spark a debate about “the battle of the sexes” or anything like that.  Rather, it is important for all of us to understand that there is a tremendous amount of confusion about what it means “to be a man” in America today.  So many of our young men seem lost, so many of our older men seem defeated and depressed, and all over this country families are completely falling apart.  We need to understand our problems so that we can start focusing on solutions.  Below, I have shared 17 things about men that most women don’t know.  Some of them are funny, some of them are quite interesting and some of them are extremely serious.  But all of them say something about where we are as a society today…


#1 When women age, they tend to become attracted to older men.  For example, one study found that 20-year-old women are most attracted to 23-year-old men and 50-year-old women are most attracted to 46-year-old men.  But the same is not true when we look at men.  That same study found that 20-year-old men are most attracted to 20-year-old women and 50-year-old men are most attracted to 22-year-old women.

#2 Many men often put on a bold front, but inside they are not nearly as secure.  At least that is what one survey found.  When presented with the statement “I am not always as confident as I look”, 76 percent of men chose the response “I feel like this regularly/sometimes”.

#3 If you could look into their hearts, you would find that most men are not truly happy.  In fact, one survey of 50-year-old men found that only 12 percent of them said that they were “very happy”.

#4 Many men still believe in traditional gender roles.  For example, one survey found that 57 percent of men expect to always pay on a date.  Alternatively, 20 percent believed that whoever initiated the date should pay, and 18 percent believed that date costs should be split.

#5 If women are wondering if it has become harder to find men that are in good shape, that is because it is true.  According to the CDC, 34.6 percent of all men in America are obese at this point.  But that doesn’t mean that men are tolerant of weight gain in women.  Sadly, one survey discovered that 50 percent of men would dump their partner “if they gained a significant amount of weight”.

#6 Most single men realize that women consider financial security to be an extremely important factor in attractiveness.  One recent survey found that “a steady job” is the number one thing that women are looking for in a husband, and another survey discovered that 75 percent of women would have a serious problem dating an unemployed man.  As a result of these attitudes, many men measure their self-worth by the size of their paychecks.

#7 In recent years, the number of men that are struggling to find work has reached new heights.  In fact, the inactivity rate for men in their prime working years (25 to 54) is now at the highest level that has ever been recorded.

#8 86 percent of men include “having children” in their definition of success.  For women, that number is only 73 percent.

#9 Many men also wish that they could spend less time working and more time with their children.  One poll found that 46 percent of fathers say that they don’t spend enough time with their kids.

#10 Men are really dropping behind women when it comes to college education.  In 2013, 60 percent of all bachelor’s degrees were earned by women.

#11 Men are much more likely “not to leave the nest” than women.  In 2012, an astounding 40 percent of all men in the 18 to 31-year-old age group still lived with their parents.

#12 There is a porn epidemic among men.  This is true even among men that are supposed to be religious.  One survey found that 64 percent of all Christian men ages 31 to 49 look at porn at least monthly.

#13 An astounding 30 percent of all Internet traffic currently goes to adult websites.

#14 There are more than 4 million adult websites on the Internet, and they get more traffic than Netflix, Amazon and Twitter combined.

#15 Society has trained young men to avoid getting married, and this has resulted in an absolutely stunning decline in the marriage rate.  Back in 1920, there were 92.3 marriages for every 1,000 unmarried women.  In 2012, there were only 31.1 marriages for every 1,000 unmarried women.

#16 The average age at first marriage just keeps going up for men and for women.  At this point, the average age when a man first gets married has reached an all-time high of 29.0 years.

#17 Women have always lived longer than men and that is still true today.  Women have a life expectancy of 81.0 years and men have a life expectancy of just 76.2 years.

So what do you think about all of this?

Please feel free to share your thoughts by posting a comment below…

17 Things About Men That Most Women Don't Know


  • Gil G

    The one about the financially secure means as per #7 that those with money get more sexy in a declining economy for doing nothing different.
    On the other hand, only 30% of the internet is adult content? The internet must really be maturing.

    • jkl

      Yes 30% does seem low!

  • DJohn1

    Men need definitions of jurisdiction in their lives. Because what worked in 1950 does not always work today. So those definitions have changed drastically in modern times.

    A good friend of mine is Mr. Mom. He and his wife have literally traded roles. He stays home and the two women in his life go out to work. His wife has not always been the most stable of people.
    10 years ago a good friend needed a nurse. He is a certified nursing assistant. She had a good job. She bought an expensive house in a good neighborhood and the three moved in together. Otherwise she would have had to go to a nursing home.
    They put his wife through school to become a guidance counselor. She paid for it by working with the other woman as a pharmacy assistant.
    The three get along very good together. The man and his wife have benefited a lot from the lift up the older woman gave them. She has made a miracle recovery from her illness that would have put her in a nursing home.
    It is important to understand one thing. All three are very good Christian people and nothing unbecoming has ever gone on in this combined home.
    In a few weeks, the man and his wife will see their daughter get married. She also has a slight disability. If she gets pregnant the daughter will need a little extra help. She and her new husband are going to live with Mr. Mum and his wife and the older lady.
    This older woman has been a stablizing influence. She is practically grandmother to the whole family. In return for the care she needed the entire group has benefited.
    The entire home is based on Christian love for one another. If someone had told me it would happen this way way back when, I think I would have nodded politely and thought them crazy.
    My point here is that we all need to take a lesson from this couple and how they have succeeded in life. They are not perfect. But they are Christian and that has made all the difference in the world.
    If people start out with Jesus Christ in their lives, most of what is in this article need not happen.
    By the way, this man is 6 feet 7 inches tall on a frame that is at least 250 pounds. There is nothing effeminate about this man. He is part of the foundation that made it work. He was not to proud to do “women’s work” and keep everyone in the house in good hands.
    My definition of a real man is a person like he is.
    He is tough as nails. He is also the most kind gentle giant of a man I have ever known.
    Real men take responsiblity for life. There is little room in their lives for excuses. And they never ever run away from what needs to be done to make things work.

  • :/

    Read the book “Iron John” by Robert Bly, on the very subject on “being a man.”

  • pryman

    I guess if you’re 50 or above, nobody wants you regardless of your gender. But as far as men, what every happened to men getting better looking as they aged? I guess it was all a dream…lol

    • Pat Riarchy

      If you’re a man above 50, all you need is money to get some sweet young honey. If you’re women over 50, well you’re SOL.

      • TheLulzWarrior

        A man above 50? Good luck keeping your job or even finding a new one.

        Gerontophilia isn´t that rare.

        • Livin the dream

          I retired at 50, no need for a job. If you stay single you’ll have plenty of cash and all the hot babes you ever dreamed of.

        • jkl

          Don’t you mean it’s not that common?

          • Carrie

            There is a website I know of, where obedient, wealthy men seek women to spoil and treat like royalty. Many of the guys’ profiles specify they do NOT want women under the age of forty, because before that age a woman is still just a girl who doesn’t know what she wants yet. So women are not lacking in the man department even over the age of fifty. She’ll have guys her age as well as much younger to choose from.

            I tell my husband I’m glad I already have my own version of that website sort of guy…

    • jkl

      Oh that is not true at all! The MILF and Cougar phenomenon have extended into the grey haired sets too! Women my grandma’s age are marrying men my father’s age! I think they might be the only women still OK with marriage? At least in wealthy countries this seems to be the case. And the older a man gets the more he needs to marry too.

  • Kim

    i feel bad for men. they are mostly misunderstood and under enormous pressure to conform.

    I prefer men that can take control of a situation (not of me!). I was married to a very controlling man for too long- he couldn’t control ANYTHING in his life so he controlled me. it didn’t work out in his favor, or mine. today I am single and I love being single. my ex-husband is also single and he is miserable. men don’t do single well. my parting message to him was: be careful what you wish for…you just might not want it.

    • Guest

      I’m a single man, but I wish I were married. I’ve had opportunities to marry, but I don’t wan’t children. The genes in my family (both sides) are terrible, and I wouldn’t want my children to suffer like my siblings and I have suffered. I feel that it would be selfish and irresponsible to beget children.

      If I could find a woman who shares my Christian faith and who would be content to not have children, I would marry her. I was in a relationship for many years with a woman who wanted to marry me, but she wanted children.

      It’s not easy being single. Like any other normal man, I like women.

      • Carrie

        What a shame your former girlfriend would not consider adopting. My husband and I adopted MANY children, it fulfills the desire to be a parent but does not involve creating babies! It was the perfect compromise. We did not do it until later in life, which made it all the better.

    • apeiron

      I am WAY happier single. ALL of my long term relationships have been uniformly miserable. I’m thankful I had children, but I wish their Mother hadn’t taken them away. I wanted to be Mr. Right, but should’ve faced the fact that I was always best as Mr. Right Now…it would’ve spared me much grief.

      • Kim

        bad relationships are the source of a lot of pain. I’m sorry.

      • TheLulzWarrior

        When SHTF and default happens, that time is coming soon, they´ll become a burden instead of cash cows and may be sent your way.

        Not want to raise vaine hopes, just a warning so you may be ready for it.

      • gotitall

        They ought to teach How Not to Choose a Bad Mate in high school. Hell they ought to teach How Not to BE a Bad Mate in high school. Bad marriages aren’t bad, they’re HORRible.

    • Pat Riarchy

      Ha! Men don’t do well single? Give me a break. Women would rather die than be alone. By the way, how many cats do you own?

      • Jodie Lynn Gaeta

        I have 7 cats.

        • jkl

          That is so much love! Lucky kitties :D

          • Jodie Lynn Gaeta

            Cats are great.

          • Kim

            they’re the best!

        • Cap285

          We’re not surprised.

      • Kim

        I’m sorry. I didn’t mean to ruffle any feathers.

        maybe my case is an aberration. I actually believe that men and women were created to dwell as couples, as families. but this system doesn’t support that concept. I actually prefer to be married, the ideal…but I am perfectly happy as a single woman too and I would not go back to my ex husband now. he did not adjust to the single life nearly as well as I did, which is ironic because my husband was the one who wanted to be single. Ive also known a few men who have lost their wives and they did not do well either. maybe that’s different.

        I own four cats. I would take in more but I travel a lot. maybe later I’ll take in a couple more. I am a cat person for sure. I’ve trained one of my cats to do tricks! she acts just like a dog.

        • TheLulzWarrior

          “I’m sorry. I didn’t mean to ruffle any feathers.”

          If you are truthfull, how can you not do just that?

        • Cap285

          You own FOUR cats but say men don’t handle being single well?!

          • Kim

            yes and I have even trained one of them to does tricks! I call her my circus cat! :-))))))

          • Jack’s mom

            You have not lived until you have had a cat like my Jack. He is the most loving, sweet soul. I never wanted a cat but hey, 22 years ago on a cold, rainy October night, he followed my son home and well the rest is history.

      • Jodie Lynn Gaeta

        Kim was so nice to you. Even though you insulted her. How do you know that “women would rather die than be alone”? And if that’s the case, why aren’t droves of single women killing themselves? You are so ignorant.

        • Carrie

          Because single women live longer than married women, yet marriage extends the lives of MEN. That’s why women aren’t killing themselves out of singledom. (I wouldn’t be surprised if more married women commit suicide though! Not to mention more single guys offing themselves too.)

          • gotitall

            Proving once again that everything is the opposite for men and women! At least you refrained from evoking Elliott Rodgers’ name, that kid was going to be single one helluva long time had he not offed himself.

          • unapologetictruth

            I find it hard to believe that something like marriage extends the life of anything.. Also, if you take a closer look a the statistics, you will see how their methods are misleading.

            The only thing marriage extends the life of is grief.

          • Carrie

            Aww, you think “men” are the same thing as “grief”? That stinks that you have such low opinion of men :(

            Men, who do btw live a statistically significant amount of additional years from being married, should not be equated with grief. At least not in 90-95%% of men (married or not).

        • Keevo

          If droves of single women were killing themselves nobody would dare say women don’t do single well. Single men are stereotyped as slobs and inept losers. Society will reap what it sows, men are seen as failures, not victims. Blame the victim basically.

      • Keep my cat out of this debate!!!

      • Josh

        My daughter has 3 cats and I have one… So what does that make this oil field worker????? Does that make me less of a man or are you too scared to send me an email????? jhupe_2000@yahoo.com

    • LF

      I love being single. I would never consider marrying again. I have too much to lose after rebuilding it all a second time. Most men I know are forever bachelors and none seem unhappy. Actually, the men that seem unhappy that I know are all married…

      • unapologetictruth

        Ive never been married and never will. I’m forever grateful that I was awake enough to see the truth. Single is the only way to be and the only way to protect yourself.

    • Cynical Guy42

      Honestly, I think it depends on the man or woman. Some men are good with singleness, some aren’t. Same for women.

    • unapologetictruth

      Men don’t do single well? Bwhahahaha. I am single by choice and many women just don’t listen or understand it when I say this, they think like you do. They also think I’m just playing hard to get. I absolutely love being single and plan to stay that way.

      You will find that most men thrive alone, it’s women that can’t thrive alone, not us guys!

    • Cap285

      Men aren’t single well?

      Who exactly is writing the influx of articles about the woes of being single?

      Hint: Not men.

      Yeah life sucks, I can watch the World Series and hockey with a bowl of chili and fine beer without constant yip yapping in my ear.

    • Josh

      Don’t feel sorry for men… I am a man who is on his second marriage and this one is perfect…. I made plenty of mistakes with my first and waited 12 years to figure it all out…. No I am far from perfect, however with my loving wife I am getting better. Yes, Men do need someone in their lives as it gives them satisfaction for being a man but only if they are real men and not these urban bitches of today.

      • Kim


  • Cynical Guy42

    It is often said men don’t understand women. While this is often true, the reverse is also often true.

  • Tatiana Covington

    How wonderful to be dead sterile.

  • Humanity was Androgynous – We were one. Men and women in one body. We were incredibly powerful. The Dark Forces, genetically divided us to make us weaker. WAKE UP.

    We need to know the higher truths to be what we truly are. Don’t let the forces of darkness fool you with drama. Even in Bible it says Eve came from Adam which by the way was created by the dark forces and they are now following it and that makes us seem like a Prophesy in Bible.

    This needs to be exposed. Once we realize we were one, it would solve 99.999% of Men and Women’s Misery

  • Carrie

    Numbers 13 & 14 aren’t male-specific at all though. Number 11 (40% of grown men living at home) is stunning! Number 15 neglects the fact that women/girls are not pursuing marriage today (since females are allowed to hold their own jobs, they don’t NEED marriage like in the past). Men still divide women into marriage-material and F-buddy material, meaning men do still think about marriage, so men not why marriage is declining. Number 17, did not everyone know that women outlive men?

    • TheLulzWarrior

      It is the other way around, actually.

      The reason these women waite or does not pursue marriage is because they are looking after Mr Goodwallet.

      Of course, as regular readers of Michael´s websites knows (or should know), that part has become rather difficult and will only grow even more difficult.

      • Carrie

        That is a common little tale men like to keep alive about women pursuing men for their money. But those men only pursue golddiggers, so that opinion dies the moment they realize their own error.

        Truly though, women were required to pursue marriage as the only choice (well, marry, or live on the streets destitute). But since women can work their own jobs, earn their own incomes, buy their own luxuries, pay for their own stuff, and live their own choices uninterrupted by a spouse… why bother marrying? A good husband is a great thing to have, but anything less than a good-enough husband is a terrible burden. Why do you think wives initiate the overwhelming majority of divorces, even though they will lose the security blanket of two incomes. They also are on marriage-minded dating websites in smaller numbers than men are, plus divorced women pursue remarriage at lesser rates than divorced men… married men live longer than single men; yet single women live longer than married women… Marriage just does not benefit women enough to make the leap!

        • jkl

          I do not live in the States but we saw a TV programme of why US women are avoiding marriage and the comedic lengths you will go through to not get married. Your birth rates are also at your lowest, so be careful what you wish for ladies, the demise of the US could come from your refusal to marry 0.o

        • TheLulzWarrior

          Tales? Michael backed that up with statistics, 75% of women themselves admitted they wouldn’t even date an unemployed man.

          It have also been backed up that a longer a man remains unemployed, the more likely he is to be divorced, the gold-diggers are a majority.
          Plenty of men knows that their income is what they are judged after.

          “even though they will lose the security blanket of two incomes.”

          As a general rule that is not the case, due to the biased court systems in North America, women gets keep much of his income, money and children.
          That is the reason women initate most of the divorces.

          Chances are, if you are morbidly obese or colostomy scar abhorrent, you have few chances of getting married.

          • Carrie

            Michael indeed stated statistics, but those do not back up what you claim they support! Yes, “75% of women would have a serious problem dating an unemployed man”, but you already translated (or MANslated) that as “wouldn’t date”!

            What if men said in a survey that 75% of them would have a serious problem marrying a woman who would not want to have s*x? Would you call those men out on being awful, or would you concur with their intelligence choice in the matter? Also, your beliefs about the court system automatically favoring women are quite antiquated and outdated. In the divorces which include alimony, it is because one spouse (of either gender) earns significantly more than the lesser-paid spouse. If anything, this should make whiners support women getting equal pay. (I know this will set off those people who only believe the one-sided stories that support the wage gap’s being a myth, while conveniently ignoring the studies proving it to be very real. And that’s fine, regurgitate your false beliefs to the world all you want. I know better, and you just fear knowing better.)

            Anyway, my husband knows if we divorce, he’ll make out like a bandit. Or “like TWO bandits”, as he likes to tell his friends. I make more than he does. Big whoop, I’d have to pay alimony (and likely child support since he is retired). Alimony is also getting pretty long in the tooth, and is considered to be on its way out anyway. Ten years from now (I am guessing), it’ll only be seen in the rarest of divorces. GOOD.

          • TheLulzWarrior

            theeconomiccollapseblog.c o m /archives/would-you-date-an-unemployed-man-75-percent-of-women-would-not

            Why do they want an employed man? Make him avoid getting into debt maybe? Make him donate to charity?

            “Also, your beliefs about the court system automatically favoring women are quite antiquated and outdated.”

            When did that change?

            Your husband? This is the internet, I do not know that or if you actually are a woman, personal claims are rather pointless.

        • Skeleton Man

          I think what people fail to realize is that in this modern age, in the USA, marriage benefits NO ONE. It’s not men’s fault or women’s fault. It is the age. Times have changed. People need to change with it.

          • Carrie

            Yes, just in time for gays to achieve the right to marry, marriage has indeed become obsolete! Ironically, Immigration and Naturalization is catching on to this trend of non-marriage and are granting marriage visas a lot less vigorously. Even back in the day they denied a good many marriages, but nothing like now.

  • matt

    God came down one day and gave a man ONE WISH..He wanted to build a bridge from Australia to New Zealand..GOD said “NO..That would be way too complicated and cost too much resources. ANYTHING else?” asked GOD… The man replied “i would like to understand women” to which GOD replied..” How many lanes do you want that bridge?”

  • TheLulzWarrior

    “#9 Many men also wish that they could spend less time working and more time with their children. One poll found that 46 percent of fathers say that they don’t spend enough time with their kids.”

    That is considerate of them.

    It also goes against the judgemental a-holes belief that men should work so women don´t have to out of a feel-good, delusional sense of manhood.

  • Jodie Lynn Gaeta

    This list wasn’t news to me at all. Not that I really care about how men feel. The brothers are on their own.

    • unapologetictruth

      Indeed, on our own is exactly the way growing numbers of us prefer it.

    • Cap285

      And we’re loving it. Enjoy your best friend in your avatar. Don’t forget the box of wine.

      • TheLulzWarrior

        It will not be too long before artificial placentas, women will no longer be a must for the men who wishes to have children.

        • Carrie

          Nah, modern medicine has already determined ways to fertilize an ovum sans sperm, because sperm is biologically easy to replace in this regard. (The offspring will always result in a female child too, so that is good or not so good, depending on who’s doing the considering.)

          Those same fertility specialists admit great difficulty in creating a biological incubator (artificial womb), and ON TOP OF that, they acknowledge that an ovum is still 100% required to initiate any progeny in the futuristic, hypothetical womb anyway. This is my field of expertise. The doctor who truly finds a way to create life without borrowing a womb OR an ovum will be treated as queen of the world. Or king, if it happens to be a male doctor.

      • Deeply Worried

        What you are saying I agree with but please play nice in the sandbox.

  • Carrie

    How does the whole gay thing even remotely affect how straight guys will be straight? A straight guy will not be affected in the slightest by the gayness of others, right? (Or will he????)

    • Biff

      He will if he is constantly force-fed the idea that being gay is acceptable, normal, cool even.

      • Carrie

        So, you’re saying if you personally keep getting constantly force-fed the idea that being gay is acceptable, normal, or cool, that you will begin to become gender-confused???

        That will not ever, ever, ever be a problem or concern for straight guys. Being straight (or gay) is not a thing you opt for. It is a thing you either ARE or are NOT. No amount of other-people-being-gay-around-you will transform a straight person into a gay person, unless that person was really never straight in the first place. Again — if you personally feel that your own heterosexuality will erode because your own eyes and ears see/hear of gays as acceptable, then you are not too hetero in the first place!

  • unapologetictruth

    Your statement suggests that a mans self worth is linked to or validated by the opposite gender. That is quite the common misconception. My self worth comes from within, whether the opposite gender considers me useless or anything else is of no consequence.

  • Jodie Lynn Gaeta

    Yeah, we ladies are evil, ain’t we? Listen, most of the lawmakers, judges and administrators of our society are men. They are the ones sending you guys off to war, for the most part. Code Pink certainly doesn’t lobby for that. And these predominately male legislatures passed laws that govern divorce, child support, etc. So get over it. No intelligent person wants to hear your misogynist pity party.

    • Cap285

      Evil? Yeah. Pretty much.

    • Kim

      seems like men are doing most of the yipping, yapping and nagging in this thread. whine whine whine, I hate women…


      • Jodie Lynn Gaeta


      • Basement-dweller

        I love being single, that is why I hate all those filthy sloots!

        forums.oce.leagueoflegends.c o m/board/attachment. p hp?attachmentid=8709&d=1394521479

        Why don´t they give me any?

        • Carrie

          Why is this link with a virus {above} allowed?

      • HumbleAmerican

        We have to whine, nag and yap. After all, it worked for the woman, didn’t it? Look at you now, all the whining paid off, now it’s our turn. LOL

    • Gratis Ptaka

      Thank you. You just illustrated my point brilliantly. Any intelligent person will figure that out and dismiss your misandric reply.

  • Gatanis

    At least it would be cheaper than marriage and much more often ;)

  • Gay Veteran


  • HumbleAmerican

    I agree just because something is legal, it doesn’t make it right. Explain why you think Exotic Stimulation, or Exotic Stimulation on film is wrong. Please try to refrain from using biblical beliefs, or society trained beliefs. I look forward to your answer.

  • HumbleAmerican

    Could be cheaper, especially if they started printing coupons, or doing a bogo.

    • Biff

      A happy hour perhpas?

      Holiday Specials?

      I think I could get behind legal prostitution, too.

      • Carrie

        When the product is you-know-what*, it will never, ever need to be discounted. Even morbidly obese or grandmotherly-old have their devotees, and they will be pursued openly instead of just online in the fetish sites. Eek. Legalizing (or more accurately, decriminalizing) you-know-what will be the death of free nookie. Who would dream of handing something out for free or even at a discount once the government has legally acknowledged it has monetary value?

        *(just trying not to get my comment put on hold for using adult language!)

    • Carrie

      Nah, nothing’s cheaper than free. Coupons and bogo is how simple minds are tricked into paying more for getting less. Marketing is a wondrous thing.

      If the world’s supposedly oldest profession becomes legal/decriminalized, perhaps no woman anywhere will ever, ever, EVER see a point to handing out free nookie anymore. Why would she?? Men would be worse off than now. Well, at least straight ones would be. Gays would be raking in all the free nookie they could from “straight” men who went their own way.

  • Carrie

    Haha, I saw that comedian’s act who said how pissed men are getting now that they realize they are replaceable by a thing that sh!ts in a box. He was dead on about men… and women too. And cats, come to think of it.

  • JustamereBear

    Our very proper society is pressuring everyone, men and women. Being a man, I think men moreso than women. (Not that women weren’t VERY downtrodden historically.) In my view men have been losing points consistently, whereas women have to a relative extent gained a few. Leaves men wondering just what their role is. Women complain that men are not willing to commit. Seems that Atlas is shrugging and not willing to play at all vs playing under these rules.