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CoupleWhat would you do if you found out that your husband or wife was gay? This is something that is increasingly happening to couples all over the country, and many end up divorcing so that the gay spouse can freely pursue a gay lifestyle. In recent days, the case of Jill and Jeff Smokler has made headlines all over the country. Jill has authored several successful parenting books and is also the editor-in-chief of a parenting website called Scary Mommy. But now she finds herself at the center or a raging controversy. After 17 years of marriage and after having three children together, Jill and Jeff have decided to divorce because of Jeff’s sexuality.

For much of their marriage Jeff thought that he was bisexual, but later he came to the conclusion that he was exclusively gay, and that has made their marriage “untenable”

A woman has shared her heartbreak after her husband of 17 years told her he is gay.

Jill and Jeff Smokler, both 39, have three children, aged nine, 11 and 13, recently made the agonizing decision to separate after 23 years together.

The couple, from Baltimore, Maryland, plan to divorce after Jeff’s suppressed sexuality made their marriage untenable and left him suffering from depression.

Jeff says that he came to the realization that he was exclusively gay four or five years ago, and he claims that he has been suppressing his sexuality since that time. The following comes from a blog post that Jeff wrote for his wife’s website entitled “When Love Isn’t Enough: Divorcing My Soulmate“…

It wasn’t until after Jill and I were married that I started to understand my (what I perceived at the time to be) bisexuality. Once I knew, the first and only person I told was my wife. And so began a long, unexpected journey that Jill and I decided we would take together.

The details of that journey are personal, and they are not mine alone to tell. That journey belongs to us, and it has shaped who we are today as people, as parents, as friends and as lovers.

But one thing I’ll say about my own journey is this: What should have been an easy choice — a no brainer — was the hardest decision I’ve ever made. Once I came to terms with the fact that I was gay, I figured I had two options: I could die — either from my intentional neglect of my health and well-being, or perhaps from something even more tragic —leaving my children fatherless, or I could come out and hope that I remained surrounded by the love of my friends, family, wife and children. Like I said, seems like a pretty easy decision.

But even though Jeff claims that he has known that he is gay for four or five years, the couple reportedly just announced this fact to their own children. The following comes from a post that Jill made on Facebook

Yesterday, Jeff and I told our children that we are divorcing, after more than 17 years of marriage and 23 years of togetherness. We also told them that the impetus for the divorce is the fact that Jeff is gay.

Without getting into too much personal detail, this is a reality which we have faced together for many years. And for a very long time, the deep love we had for one another sustained us through the more difficult moments that our increasingly diverging sexuality created.

I am not quite sure what “increasingly diverging sexuality” means, but obviously this put a tremendous amount of strain on their marriage. The following comes from the Daily Mail

She said it was a ‘difficult’ decision to end their marriage and that the last few months have been ‘brutal’. But she is confident that they will be able to foster a healthy platonic relationship.

‘It wasn’t easy. Nothing about this experience has been easy. But we are best friends, he is literally my favorite person in the world to be around, so even before kids, I didn’t want to split up.

‘When he clearly had turned a corner and realized this wasn’t a phase or a tiny sliver of who he is, I knew it was time to move on,’ Jill told Daily Mail Online.

As a larger and larger percentage of the population decides that they are gay, this sort of thing is going to become increasingly common in the years ahead.

And sometimes the scenario is reversed. What I mean is that sometimes it is the wife that is the one that decides that she wants to pursue a gay lifestyle. In fact, a prominent “Christian” blogger made this precise decision not too long ago

Weeks after author Jen Hatmaker parted ways with orthodox Christianity and said same-sex marriage could be “holy,” another figure in the Christian blogosphere has gone a step further – divorcing her husband and beginning a relationship with lesbian soccer player Abby Wambach.

According to People.com, Glennon Doyle Melton – who blogs at Momastery – divorced her husband of 14 years three months ago and has now “found love” with the well-known USA women’s soccer and World Cup star.

Melton went public with the relationship in a lengthy post on her Facebook page, where she extols her new partner for her caring attitude and her love for Melton’s children and former husband. She wrote that she is also ready to display a “different type of leadership” than she has in the past.

We live at a time when definitions of sexuality are far more fluid than they were for previous generations.

In the past, society had a much clearer understanding of what right and wrong were, but today most people just do whatever seems right in their own eyes.

This is the path that America has chosen, and we shall see where it ultimately takes us…

  • A.S.

    No wonder countries like Russia hate us. They hate gays, lesbians, etc. we no longer look like a dream, as in the the 50s.

    • Russia hated us long before most in America knew what gay was.

    • RageHard84

      True. Those gay marriage supporters are as bad as white supremacists! They will insult you and call you names for disagreeing with them. Gay weddings are as bad as KKK rallies. I know from interacting with them online.

  • snape

    Reminds me of those marriages where the wife isn’t happy because the husband spends all his time gaming.

    • Jim Davis

      He spent all his time gayming.

    • RageHard84

      It’s not good for a man to neglect his wife and spend excessive time gaming, but I wouldn’t equate that to the sin of homosexuality – at least you’re not literally committing adultery when you’re gaming.

  • SallySmith71

    So he was not gay when he married her and made kids together but he became gay over time? Don’t they claim to be born gay? Maybe it’s more of a virus or a choice or something like that.

    • Paul Patriot

      It is a choice. If people were born gay, then the God of the bible has a lot of explaining to do, as the bible asserts over and over that homosexuality is an abomination to the Living God, and that no homosexual will enter heaven, ( unless they confess their sin, repent and turn to the only name under heaven which we may be saved…the Lord Jesus Christ)

    • Paul Patriot

      People think they are “born” that way, the same way a man thinks he is “born” to naturally list after woman.

      We are born in sin, and the bible says we are children of sin and wrath, and unless we are born again, we will not enter heaven. Only by confessing our sins, repenting, and asking the Lord Jesus Christ to save us, will be no longer be under wrath of God, and then and only then will we have the right to be called children of God.

      Jesus came to save us from the wrath of God. God is a loving God, not wanting any to perish, but, he is also a Holy, righteous judge who will judge sin, and too many people are being deceived by the politically correct lie from hell,about homosexuality.

      • Jim Davis

        I wasn’t born lusting after women and I certainly didn’t “choose” to lust after women. For me it started around age 13. There was no choice. If a boy represses those feelings and somehow believes they are sinful, well that’s one way how gays are created!

        • Paul Patriot

          Incorrect you are! We are all born in sin, so, sinful thoughts and behavior come natural.

          The God of heaven is saying that lusting and homosexuality are sins.

          That’s why Jesus said you need to be born again to enter heaven.

          The fruits of the Spirit are self control, although the world calls it repression

          • autistic eunuch

            I can’t lust after women since some months after I used the livestock tool circa May 27, 2015.
            Lust is a hormonal thought & as hormones slowly decline so do those thoughts. Still attracted to a few woman faces et al. but the decline is so huge it just doesn’t seem to be there.

    • autistic eunuch

      There’s a spit test that can determine with 70 something % accuracy if gay or straight. Can’t remember the percent exactly. I think it is (at least some cases) a change in DNA.

  • TrollingforTrolls

    I am not quite sure what “increasingly diverging sexuality” means, but
    obviously this put a tremendous amount of strain on their marriage…..I can tell you, Michael, exactly what it means.

    I was married to my ex-husband for 15 plus years. He strayed outside of the marriage continually, BUT always with men. He was torn, as he wanted normalcy, but inwardly felt he was homosexual. Enough was enough for me. I left him for his deviant ways,

    It is my belief that they don’t all of a sudden come to the conclusion that they are gay, but rather it is deeply rooted and something they are in constant turmoil with,

  • im4truth4all

    Right is right if no one is right and wrong is wrong if everyone is wrong.

    • iris

      So true. We don’t have to live by our limited understanding, circumstances or emotions, when we trust Jesus Christ for who He says He is, what He says He has done and will do for us. God is, and longs to be, our source of strength and comfort, hope and edification, and all of us need Him desperately. These helps are possible through a real and personal love relationship, offered by the living God who created us and loves each one of us more than anyone ever can, through Jesus Christ’s purposeful death on the Tree. So many believe the lies of the enemy of our souls, but Truth is still evident, and calls to each person.

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  • Jim Davis

    Was he really “gay” or did he just get brainwashed by the 24/7 GAY GAY GAY TRANS TRANS TRANS media BS?

    Or maybe the wife turned him? LOL!

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  • K

    There are those who resist evil. And those who give themselves over to it.

  • DJohn1

    In other circles, they might consider sex outside their marriage as adultery.
    One of the purposes of marriage is to contain diseases that spread by sexual contact. One partner, one mate, period.
    When one partner has other partners then the entire family is contaminated with whom ever the partner has contact physically with.
    Veneral diseases are an epidemic right now in this country.
    Places like Africa it kills a lot of people. They have multiple wives in some of those countries and men go around. So Veneral disease goes around also.
    Things like AIDS also go around and that can be very tragic for the children.
    I personally think if God did create us and I have no doubt that God did then someone along the way made a huge mistake in our creation.
    There are well over 400 genetic diseases in the Human species.
    This business of being Gay? It might be one of those mistakes.
    Most absolute dictators have to delegate. And God is an absolute dictator in control of the entire universe.
    At least that is how I read it in the Bible.
    It says also in Revelations that God is the Alpha and Omega. The beginning of creation and the end of creation. The beginning of time and the end of time.
    That gives responsibility for everything where it belongs. God is responsible for the way we were built even if he delegated it. Reason to believe delegation is in Genesis where it refers to We in the creation of man in our own image.
    So if they are genetic mistakes in creation, then the gay community is possibly indeed an abomination. Substitute the word mistake for abomination.
    IF God is a time lord then God can go back and change any mistake that was made in creation. Simply by altering the past.
    Mankind does not know. It is that simple.
    I suggest that God deal with it not mankind.
    What all of us need to be concerned about is multiple partners.
    That is a epidemic disease situation waiting to happen.
    So allowing gays to isolate themselves to one partner? I approve of that kind of marriage only so that we restrain the multiple disease factor. Veneral disease is not pretty. Innocent partners infected by unfaithful partners is not pretty either.
    Banning adultery makes sense from a disease standpoint.

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  • RageHard84

    It’s a shame the gay marriage movement is winning. They insult people and call them names for disagreeing with them, just like the white supremacist movement.

  • Ray S.

    My ex-wife put me through so much that I probably would have pretended to be gay if things had not ended. Maybe this guy did just that?

  • R.C. Gerber

    ” After 17 years of marriage and after having three children together, Jill and Jeff have decided to divorce because of Jeff’s sexuality.” Thus proving the homosexuality is a choice… not a mandate.

  • The sad part is some pious Christian groups suspect a man might be gay just for doing simple freedoms.

    Even wearing orange shoe laces can raise suspicions.
    Talk about pious minded.

  • P does not make men gay because nearly all single young (high t level) men with internet at home watch it.